I had an interesting experience of consciousness yesterday when my kids came home from school. Thank God they were all pretty relaxed and went right to play with their toys. My oldest was in his room and my other two wanted something to eat, and then I hear Eli Tzvi calling me from his room and I told him I will be there in a minute.
The magic of this moment was that he patiently waited relaxing on his bed until I came, there was no screaming, there was no demanding or whining, finally he knows that I will finish up what I am doing as quick as I can and come over and see what he needs. What was the situation? He was trying to build a train track and a piece was missing and he wanted me to help him find it. I was so excited of how this had all transpired, so I told him I would be right back (do we always come right back?) I think I had to get something for the other kids, and then I really did come right back and we found it together.
Screaming still happens, whining, crying, pulling clothes, and sometimes even biting still happens, but that moment showed me that there is hope. Now that I am home when they are home, I focus on being present, and once they get a bit older, I won't say it becomes easier, but basically if you show them respect they will show you respect. I try my best to be patient and listen to what they are asking, even if it takes them forever to get it out of their mouth.
One of my goals for this year is to build this kind of relationship with my children, communication, them knowing that I will be there when they ask, and they know they can come to me for anything. May this be a foundation for the rest of our lives - AMEN!
Tomorrow night our Jewish New Year begins, and we are all getting ready physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.
Shana Tova V Metuka,
Happy and Sweet New Year,
Gmar Chatima Tova,
May Everyone Be Inscribed In The Book Of Life,
Coach Yulia
The magic of this moment was that he patiently waited relaxing on his bed until I came, there was no screaming, there was no demanding or whining, finally he knows that I will finish up what I am doing as quick as I can and come over and see what he needs. What was the situation? He was trying to build a train track and a piece was missing and he wanted me to help him find it. I was so excited of how this had all transpired, so I told him I would be right back (do we always come right back?) I think I had to get something for the other kids, and then I really did come right back and we found it together.
Screaming still happens, whining, crying, pulling clothes, and sometimes even biting still happens, but that moment showed me that there is hope. Now that I am home when they are home, I focus on being present, and once they get a bit older, I won't say it becomes easier, but basically if you show them respect they will show you respect. I try my best to be patient and listen to what they are asking, even if it takes them forever to get it out of their mouth.
One of my goals for this year is to build this kind of relationship with my children, communication, them knowing that I will be there when they ask, and they know they can come to me for anything. May this be a foundation for the rest of our lives - AMEN!
Tomorrow night our Jewish New Year begins, and we are all getting ready physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.
Shana Tova V Metuka,
Happy and Sweet New Year,
Gmar Chatima Tova,
May Everyone Be Inscribed In The Book Of Life,
Coach Yulia
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