Center of the Universe

Everybody is always inside their own head, everything we hear is translated into our own words, experiences, and perspective.  It is quite rare to just have a conversation, person to person, where both are really listening, and not interpreting.

This theme of feeling like I am the center of the universe, keeps coming up lately, and I mean "I" as in every person saying that to themselves about themselves, and really feeling like everything revolves around them.

I don't know if this is making sense, but here are some examples:

On Saturday we were at the synagogue for our Day of Rest, and my son saw his teacher that he had when he was 2 and 3 years old, he is now in a different school.  I had spoken to her earlier, so when he told me he saw her, I said yes I saw her too.  He kept on wanting me to come over to her, so finally I did, and she told me she tried to say hello to him, but he was shy to go up to himself.  So I thought he was talking about me saying hello, but he was really talking about himself saying hello.  I was so happy I went over with him, and he was happy to say hello.

Later that night I was talking to a friend on the phone that just had a baby girl, her boy is almost three years old, and is showing some signs of jealousy, and saying no to things. So I told her, especially when a second child comes along, it is such an important lesson for the first child, that they are not the center of the universe.

I also think a good example is when parents are trying to teach their children, at any age, and the children have their own point of view, are independent and head strong.  It boggles my mind for sure, how could they not listen to me? I am the parent, I know what I am talking about!!!! Anyone else feel this way? :)

The final example is my good friend who came over today was telling me that she was getting to know someone, and really felt they had a connection, and then she found out from someone else that he asked another girl out.  Definitely a blow to the ego, but such is life, even when a connection feels strong to one person, the other person could be having a completely different experience.  Also she was getting to know someone long distance, who she did not have anything in common with, but was enjoying getting to know him.  She started realizing that for him their conversations meant a lot more, and he was telling all of his family about her.  He probably will be shocked that she does not return his feelings.

All I know is that before I met my husband, there was always something to figure out, or some drama, or something did not fit.  My roommate would ask me how things are going when I was dating my husband, and I told her its just going, there is nothing to talk about.  THANK GOD.

It is important to have a strong sense of self,
A love of self,
but it is the connections and relationships throughout our lives that make it meaningful,
physically, intellectually, emotionally, and spiritually,
All four must be present for a complete connection,
It also helps to be connected to whatever is out there,
To know that there is something above us,
It is not for nothing,
Enjoy the moment,
Live,
Experience,
Love,
Do,
Appreciate,
Share,
Coach Yulia

Enjoyed this beautiful day with my kids outside with family and friends, can you spot my princess?