Single vs. Married are two different states of being, and when you add pregnancy, birth, and children to the mix, whoa! are you thrown into a whole new world that you new absolutely nothing about. Even if you are in the medical or holistic world, or teaching about pregnancy and birth, until it happens to you, you really do not know how you will react or feel. The best thing to do is educate yourself, ask everyone you know, and decide what feels best for you.
I remember when I was 8 months pregnant with my first, we had to go somewhere with my nephew, and my mother in law and her friend and I could not figure out how to close a stroller. It cracked me up, all I thought was "why would I ever need to know this before?" There are people that are around kids all the time, whether its family or babysitting. Before I got married, very few of my friends had kids in LA, and I just was not around that world at all. I am all or nothing kind of gal, and as my good friend pointed out the other day, in 5 years I have a new marriage, 3 kids, and I also threw in Health and Wellness Coaching on top of my Yoga, I got a lot going on, and I think I am still learning, growing, and figuring everything out.
This week we were faced with situations that we literally had no idea what to do. Luckily I inherited the positive view from my mom, I do not put myself down, all I want is to ask questions, that is from my dad, and learn, grow, and always looking for direction from the people around me. Ultimately the decision is mine, and I am surrounded by loving and caring people, I feel confident that all we can do in this life is keep learning, and mistakes are ok. My father always points out a mistake is made once, after that it is not a mistake.
So this world of parenting is so different in every stage of childhood, and in the early years it is physically challenging, but when kids start talking and expressing themselves, having their own opinion, its a whole other ballgame. You want to find the right balance between making them feel independent, and make their own decisions, to listening their mother and father, and treating everyone around them with kindness and respect.
So what I learned this week is that it is very important for parents to listen to their children. This may sound obvious, but in our non stop world, especially for my husband and I who have our own businesses, there is never a time when we are not working, a client call can happen anytime. It is amazing that without our conscious knowledge, when we are all home together, we were always trying to "get everything done," instead of just spend time enjoying our kids. I guess that is what living in the moment really means, and not a selfish living in the moment, or extreme high living in the moment, but when your kids are home, your undivided attention should be on them. So now my husband and I take turns doing what needs to be done, and one of us is hanging out with the kids. I feel our time management is much better because of always checking in with each other, and wanting to make the most of our time with the kids and with what needs to be done. Luckily my older two play together all the time really well, and they even play alone very well, in their own world of stories, cars, and dolls. But having us sitting by their side, appreciating them, watching them, being there when they need even the littlest thing, has made all the difference in the world.
The other day Eli Tzvi said to me "You are smiling at me," and I really got it that he got it, that he knew I was there 100% present.
As I say in Yoga, there is not one way, there is no perfect way, each individual has to find their way. Yes there are rules of form and alignment, and we all have similar puzzle pieces, but completely different sizes, shapes, flexibilities, and energy. Each child is a unique soul that we have to get to know, and learn how to communicate and interact with, while we teach the rules of society, family, and connection with God. For me this connection means absolute trust that everything will be ok.
Whoa! TGIF! I am soooooooo ready for the Day of Rest :)
Shabbat Shalom,
Yulia
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| Baby Me and Mama |
This week we were faced with situations that we literally had no idea what to do. Luckily I inherited the positive view from my mom, I do not put myself down, all I want is to ask questions, that is from my dad, and learn, grow, and always looking for direction from the people around me. Ultimately the decision is mine, and I am surrounded by loving and caring people, I feel confident that all we can do in this life is keep learning, and mistakes are ok. My father always points out a mistake is made once, after that it is not a mistake.
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| Baby Me and Papa |
So this world of parenting is so different in every stage of childhood, and in the early years it is physically challenging, but when kids start talking and expressing themselves, having their own opinion, its a whole other ballgame. You want to find the right balance between making them feel independent, and make their own decisions, to listening their mother and father, and treating everyone around them with kindness and respect.
So what I learned this week is that it is very important for parents to listen to their children. This may sound obvious, but in our non stop world, especially for my husband and I who have our own businesses, there is never a time when we are not working, a client call can happen anytime. It is amazing that without our conscious knowledge, when we are all home together, we were always trying to "get everything done," instead of just spend time enjoying our kids. I guess that is what living in the moment really means, and not a selfish living in the moment, or extreme high living in the moment, but when your kids are home, your undivided attention should be on them. So now my husband and I take turns doing what needs to be done, and one of us is hanging out with the kids. I feel our time management is much better because of always checking in with each other, and wanting to make the most of our time with the kids and with what needs to be done. Luckily my older two play together all the time really well, and they even play alone very well, in their own world of stories, cars, and dolls. But having us sitting by their side, appreciating them, watching them, being there when they need even the littlest thing, has made all the difference in the world.
The other day Eli Tzvi said to me "You are smiling at me," and I really got it that he got it, that he knew I was there 100% present.
As I say in Yoga, there is not one way, there is no perfect way, each individual has to find their way. Yes there are rules of form and alignment, and we all have similar puzzle pieces, but completely different sizes, shapes, flexibilities, and energy. Each child is a unique soul that we have to get to know, and learn how to communicate and interact with, while we teach the rules of society, family, and connection with God. For me this connection means absolute trust that everything will be ok.
Whoa! TGIF! I am soooooooo ready for the Day of Rest :)
Shabbat Shalom,
Yulia
Find their own way can be tough...
ReplyDeleteAnd beautiful photos of U and your parents ;@) Your Mum reads your blog?
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