Why wait so long to get married?

I firmly believe that we all have our match somewhere out there in the big world.  Nobody is perfect, and the pros have to outweigh the cons, but I wrote a list in 2003 of all the qualities I wanted in a partner.  Sam fit everyone when we met in January 2007, through one of my students, who knew that I just turned 34, and was trying to help me out, God bless her.  My father got married at 33, so that was my re-evaluate age, I decided at 33 that I was ready to meet someone, put it out into the universe, nice Jewish guy, but not too nice, was completely open to meeting anyone and everyone.  I even did internet dating for a while, although some of my friends had success, I knew from the first meeting with all of them it did not click.  So when my student told me that Sam was a Russian guy, I said why not meet him, although I like the tall, dark, and handsome variety, and in many cases Russian is usually a light complexion.

So when we met, it was on Shabbat, he was all dressed up in his suit, looking very handsome, and my first though was, this is not a Russian guy!  So he was born in Israel, but his father is Romanian and his mother is Russian.  His mother was hoping he would find a Russian girl, and although that is the country of my birth, I have an American accent in Russian, grew up among Americans, and look more Israeli than Russian.  But her wish was granted, I love her food, and we speak Russian together :)

Why wait so long to get married?  So some people find their other half earlier in life, but I believe you need two important things in common to really have a future together:
1. Timing
2. Be on the same page for how you want to live your life and raise your kids.

Sam and I realized that we both were in LA in 2000, but I was in a whole different place then.  We look at pictures of ourselves, and he says he would have never looked at me, and I told him I would have never looked at him - LOL - we both did a lot of things in our 20's and were ready to get married and start a family.

From a young age I have identified with my father, he had a fun single life, travelled, I looked more like him.  Now my mother and I are very close, but growing up, I felt very different from her.  My parents only gave me one request, marry Jewish, and when I went to the Orthodox Jewish school in Denver, Colorado, there was a big divide of things boys can do and things girls can do, and I did not like it.  So I decided I will marry Jewish one day, but I will date whoever I want, and I will do whatever I want, who makes the rules of what boys and girls can do!  So for 33 years of my life, I lived it up my friends, BIG TIME!  Miami was a big part of it, everyone there wears very little clothes because its hot, and everybody stays out all night - so as long as I got good grades, I just lived the fun, wild, 24 hour culture of Miami, we lived there for 15 years, and then I worked on cruise ships for 3 years - totally fun, wild, 24 hour international culture.  Then enter Los Angeles, California - more fun, wild, 24 hour Hollywood culture.  When I turned 33, my re-evaluation age, I was sooooooo ready to start another chapter in my life, meet someone special, Thank you God for listening to me, and making me the happiest woman in my single life, and an even happier woman in my current, blessed, magical life that I have now.

Tip of the Day:  The Law of Attraction - Think Positive - Trust the Universe - if you believe in God, let go of worry, it makes no sense to worry in advance - whatever you think about becomes your reality. LIFE IS GOOD, if you believe it, it will be so. Everything else that happens just leads you to the point of discovering where LIFE IS GOOD.

Relive, Release, Radiate,
Coach Yulia